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The quality of your life

It’s been said that the best lifestyle is one of moderation. But how do you define “moderation”? A friend once told me that everyone needs to set their own level of moderation; that each person has to decide what moderation means for him or herself. I both agree and disagree.

I don’t believe we should set standards that imply moderation as not doing as much of a bad thing as we once did, like eating three pizzas rather than five. I do believe in taking small steps to achieve large goals, but we can’t live an energized life – we can’t have a better quality of life – by settling for small achievements. Life is just too precious. When I was younger, if something depressing, anxiety-producing or tragic happened, I would say: Please, just let this day be over. I don’t say that anymore because each day that’s over is one day lost out of my life. Each day is valuable and I’m thankful for it. I recently heard someone say, “When asked what’s the best experience of your life, the answer should always be ‘the one I am about to have.’” It’s never too late to revitalize your life, to improve the quality.

Over the years, I have faced my own battles with fatigue. Many people have asked me, “How do you do it all? How can you be a wife and a mother and a doctor and write a book, be on TV and have time to stay in shape?” I believe I can do all these things because I have learned to compartmentalize my life. I am not all of those things all of the time. There is a time and a place for everything in my life. Yes, you have to be flexible. You have to be adaptable. But you also have to be able to identify your own needs and your own space. You can’t allow yourself to be forced to do something you want to do, and worse, don’t have time to do. Boundaries are empowering, and empowerment usually translates into energy.

What do I do? I spend time helping my kids with their homework and I take no social or business calls during that time. My children always know they’re more important than anything else in the world. I won’t allow them to have any memories of their mother on the phone or working in lieu of spending time with them. Conversely, if it’s late and the girls are upstairs calling for me because they want me to come watch them dance in their bedroom, after I’ve spent the last three hours with them, I don’t feel guilty saying no because it’s my time to be with my husband. That’s quality time for all, including me.

Don’t let yourself get distracted or overwhelmed by outside forces. There’s a time and a place to get everything done, to take care of your self, your body and your own emotional wellness. If you have a strong body that is hormonally balanced; if you exercise, eat good food, and experience loving relationships then you will be able to cope with any unexpected stressors.

If you make the most of every day, you will feel better, you will look better, you will be better, and you will never again wish for a day to be over. Start today. Your better quality of life is waiting.